I'd like to share a conversation I had yesterday with my good friend Grace, who is a Christian. I asked her how she felt about the fact that I am not a Christian, and that I don't believe in a god that is anything like the Christian god. I wanted to know if she had any hopes for my joining the flock, and how she saw her responsibility towards me and others like me, as a Christian.
Her answers enlightened me. She started by describing her relationship with god, using the diagram attached. The three circles represent father, son and holy spirit, and the shaded area is Grace. But she explained that this is her personal experience, and for others it may be different. She asked how I saw it. I explained that I appreciate Nature, and believe that science can explain it. Grace said that for God, my experience is as valid as hers - because for God it is enough that I appreciate Nature (or in Grace's words 'his creation'), and what I understand about it doesn't matter.
When we stand outside together and watch a rainbow, Grace enjoys it because it reminds her of God's promise not to send another flood. I enjoy it because it amazes me that sunlight shining through a tiny raindrop can produce something so beautiful. Grace says our different understandings are irrelevant - her god sees that we are both transfixed on his (or in my case Nature's) rainbow, and he is satisfied.
What about her responsibilities? I asked if she prays for me. She says she prays in general for everyone to be content. But there are several reasons why she wouldn't pray for someone to be a Christian.
First, she says that God gave us free will. If she were to pray for me to get something I have said I don't want, she sees that as trying to take away the free will that God has given me, and she thinks it's wrong to second-guess her god.
Secondly, she sees that praying for me would probably have the opposite effect from what she would want - it would push me away instead of bringing me closer.
Thirdly, she points out that in Matthew 20 (I think :? ), Jesus walked by until he was called. Grace's interpretation of this is that Jesus didn't give 'salvation' unless someone asked. He simply offered people the chance to follow him, and gave witness - but at no point did he try to persuade people. So Grace sees it as her responsibility to talk to people about Jesus, and to describe her relationship with god, but in no way to actively recruit people.
Finally, she referred back to her original point. She doesn't think it's necessary to worry about the fact that I'm not a Christian, as I have an appreciation for and understanding of Nature, which in her opinion is a valid experience of God, even if I don't call it that. The people she worries about are those who don't have any understanding of how they fit into (in her words) God's creation.
Isn't my friend Grace great?
